28 Jun, 2021 11:53 AM

Why do people underestimate homeschoolers?

Yes I asked a different question about this but I want to take this deeper... I have home schooled for almost11 years of my life and get straight A's. I also have a great social life-alot of friends...I don't get why people think less of homeschoolers. I took drivers ed with the local public school students and I was the teachers favorite- I studied,I did my homework and I could read clearer and better than anyone in the class(of like 20).they even stumbled over simple words-sometimes I wonder if they teach them ANYTHING in public school. What are your thoughts on this disgusting controversy?

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28 Jun, 2021 11:54 AM

They underestimate homeschoolers because they don't know any better. And they don't want to know any better.

Look at some of the answers! Absolutely laughable some of them. People say things often enough that they begin to believe them:

"You teachings have been one sided. You have one teacher who reflects their opinions into lessons. Also, there are no other students to provide other points of view. That's important and can help mold you into a more well rounded student. "

As a former school teacher, this makes no sense to me whatsoever. What opinions in math? In physics? Chemistry? Biology? Geography? Learning to read? To spell? To do phys. ed.? Shop? Home ec.? If you have the same history teacher for all of high school, how do you get differing opinions in the lessons?

Our opinions didn't matter much when we were in school and it's much the same thing now: there's a curriculum to be learned and by golly, the teacher is going to present the curriculum. There is little to discuss. And almost nothing to have an opinion on. Having your own opinion in something like history or even story/novel comprehension often doesn't matter and you won't share it because the teacher is looking for only one thing s/he considers correct.

"homeschooling is boring, isnt it? theres no spreading rumors, no smoking in the bathroom, no skipping class, no fights, no what you call controversy. which means no fun "

This is so immature, it's sad. This is what I don't want my kids to grow up with: thinking that doing what's wrong is what's fun. I had plenty of fun growing up without doing what's wrong. As an adult, my fun does not come from doing what's wrong. My kids' fun does not come from doing what's wrong. The attitude that what is wrong is fun can destroy a person--and a society.

" I saw a family on trading spouses that home schooled their children. They ate raw meat and lived in filth. "

Yeah, well I've seen some pretty strange families on Wife Swap who send their kids to public school. Doesn't mean all parents who send their kids to public school allow things like 25 animals in the house (and never cleaning up their vomit or poop or anything), or are so obsessive-compulsive that they will empty their children's drawers because a sock is out of place, or any other of the multitude of bizarre things some of these families do.

28 Jun, 2021 11:54 AM

The only homeschoolers most people come into contact with are the ones who return to school by court order because thier parents didn't teach them anything.  These rare cases where homeschooling didn't work become what regular school children and the public in general think of as a typical homeschooler.  Most of these people are too closed minded to even consider the possibility that homeschoolers usually get a better education.  And because they are so closed minded, they don't realize that other people can be open minded.  They don't realize that it is possible to gather facts then form an opinion since they usually just accept the opinions that are taught to them.

28 Jun, 2021 11:54 AM

Trust me I know how you feel.  I homeschooled all the way up until this year when I went to High School as a freshman.  I think the reason people underestimate homeschoolers is that  they feel sorry for us because we sit at home doing school while their at school hanging with friends.  They don't realize that homeschooling is a lot better than going to public school, you get done with your work a lot faster, you get to sleep in.  I remember when I was homeschooling people kept saying "Oh that must suck, never being able to hang out with friends."  So that might be why.  They just don't realize that we have friends even though we homeschool.

28 Jun, 2021 11:55 AM

I've had three experiences with knowing families with homeschooled children.

The first family was the neighbors across the street in my old house.  Their reason for homeschooling was religious reasons, which I don't have a problem with, except the parents deeply ruined their social life because the kids never went out and their parents dressed them. I felt sorry for them.

The second family has my little sister's best friend (age 11), and the friends little brother, sister, and big brother. The only reason the mother keeps them homeschooled is to have them do chores around the house daily, including scrubbing bathrooms and making dinner.  The rest of the time they play, so I don't know where any education comes in.The kids have absolutley no manners with anything, which they could have been exposed to in a public/private school setting. Three of the kids don't know how old they are or what grade they are in.

Then, the third family was a homeschooling success. All the kids are very social and bright and hold leadership positions in my church.

These examples are why many people, including me, are very wary on homeschooling.

I do, have many complaints on public schools, but I won't get into them.

28 Jun, 2021 11:55 AM

I think we/they are underestimated for a number of reasons, not least due to the huge variations in the way children are educated  at home.  Some seem to do no structured work and just play around all day, others attend online schools and others still spend hours in front of workbooks every day.

There is no 'norm' and usually the only home schoolers that many people hear about are those of us who have failed in some way, either by abusing the children in our care, or by failing to educate our children in accordance with our country/state laws.  Nobody seems to shout loudly about the homeschooled kids who get into the top universities/colleges or who land excellent positions in jobs of theirr choice etc.

As somebody else said, if they were to make some sitcoms showing a favourable view of home ed it would all become very favourable and a cool thing to do.