27 Jun, 2021 06:08 PM

Public Schoool or Homeschool for a gifted child?

Okay, My daughter will be in Kindergarten this year. She was tested a few weeks ago from the dean of gifted and talented in our school district. They said that she is above level. Her mind is more in line with a seven year old. At this time she is still 4. Her Birthday isn't until May. My question is: Is it better to put her in school , or homeschool?

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27 Jun, 2021 06:08 PM

With all of these wonderful answers, I'll be brief.

If you choose the public (or even private) school route, ask them what *exactly* what they are willing to do for gifted students. My brother had some difficulties with boredom in most of his grades, but in 4th (or maybe 5th, I'm not sure) grade it came to a head. Not only was he extremely bored in class, the teacher gave excruciatingly boring homework. Maybe for some of the other students, it was practice, but for my brother it was busywork...pages and pages of it after an entire day of (his words) "wasting time while she says the same thing over and over and over and over". A talk to the teacher garnered a promise that she would give him better things to do in class, but resulted in her simply doubling the amount of busywork he was doing as homework. A talk to the principal first resulted in more homework, then in the outrageous statement that "He'll be out of elementary school after next year and the middle school has some honors classes."

He switched to a (very good) private school and was immediately much happier.

27 Jun, 2021 06:08 PM

Yeah, put her in school where she will have to wait for the rest of the class to get everything; waste time going from class to class, getting supplies out, watching movies with a sub, and will be bored out of her mind!  I was not a 'gifted' kid but I could tell from the homework my friends always brought home I would have been very bored at public school.  I am so glad my parents chose to homeschool and let me learn at my own pace whether that was moving ahead, or staying on a subject till I knew it front and back.   

I do not believe children are born gifted, rather it is something in their surroundings that makes them this way.  Obviously you have been raising her the right way if she is gifted, so why not keep doing what you are doing?  If her school gets too complicated someday there are always tutors, other homeschool parents, and college classes you can take online or at the campus.  I took quite a few college classes during high school because the high school-level work was simply not challenging enough.  So we took my education to the next level.  When I was ready for college I already had credits to transfer.

Socialization is really not an issue in today's world.  I have never had a problem with making friends whether they are my age or not, I have never been lacking for friends, and I have never had anyone comment on my social 'skills'.  Although many people say I am 'so outgoing' when they find out I was homeschooled.  

In my opinion, homeschooling is your best bet, maybe private school, but definitely not public school.

Source(s): Homeschooled K-12, senior in college, future homeschool mom!

27 Jun, 2021 06:08 PM

I went to public school from grade k-part of 9. I was tested very early for the gifted and talented program and was ranked very high. However, at my school that pretty much meant nothing. I was often very bored in class, felt like I wasn't learning anything, and almost felt neglected. Her school may have a great program for the gifted and talented. I would look into it. Homeschool is also a great option because you could plan the curriculum directly towards her needs. Your best bet is to look into both options and see which will fit your family's needs. Good luck!

27 Jun, 2021 06:09 PM

First off you need to consider where you live and what is available. If you live in a city you are more likely going to find schools with gifted programs or schools that are for gifted children. 

A city is also more likely to have a home school group (for all those who are freaked out about socialization). Yes socialization is important to small kids but I think some people put too much emphases on it at too young of an age. 

Things to consider. Is dad going to support home school? What is HER learning style? Can she learn sitting in a desk all day and being spoon fed the facts or would it be better to let her explore the world around her (with your guidance). If the latter fits her then Home school would definitely be the better option. If she is a child who would thrive in a public setting then that would be best. The only way to know for sure may be to try both. For my family home school works. We sit down and do the Math, Reading and Language Arts stuff together and for Science they explore the world around them. We are using a science book to guide them but they are always outside tracking down different birds (that's what we're studying this year). At this time being 4 I think it's more important to play and to learn through play (how most little ones learn any way). One more thing to consider is the kind of education you want your child to have. If you want a secular education then public school is great.If you want an education that has both Secular and Religious elements then home school would be better. 

 Excellent books to read while you are considering this is How Kids Learn by John Holt and You Can Teach Your Child Successfully by Ruth Beechick. I think the best way to inform yourself and make a decision is to learn more about your daughter and learn about the processes of learning for her.

Another great resource is HSLDA. They will give you the laws pertaining to home school and give you an idea of how hard it will be where you live. For us it's simple for those in other states it can be a huge hassle. 

Good Luck and God Bless

27 Jun, 2021 06:09 PM

My sister is a public school teacher. The teachers in her school refer to the No Child Left Behind act as the "No Child Gets Ahead" act....they teach to the bottom level kids, because it is those kids whose failing scores will bring the school penalties. The mid and gifted level kids will pass the tests easily, so why put any effort into advancing them when it gains the school nothing?  Sad but true.

Homeschool...we did it for my kids and it is one of the BEST choices we've ever made.  Read my other answers for more info, but in short, go to the library and check out the 371 non-fiction section for great books on homeschooling!

Source(s): homeschooling 9 years