24 Jun, 2021 07:32 PM

I am 19 yrs old and i am getting married and i dont know whether i should continue with my university?

I started my university in October 2006 and i droped out becuase i was not happy with the course and now i have taken a gap year. i was thinking of applying to university this year but i dont whether i should or not because i would be married in july and i dont know if i can cope with it. Also my boyfriend is not supporting me in continuing with my education as he wants me to work for 2 years have baby and than start the education. but i dont know what i want!! please help me to mke the right choice.

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24 Jun, 2021 07:33 PM

if u want then get married but get yourself an education!!

go to UNI! don't stop living your life... u can have kids later

concentrate on ur education!

u go get it tiger!

24 Jun, 2021 07:33 PM

If he's not supporting you in what you originally wanted to do, are you sure you should be marrying him? Marriage is about compromise not selfishness. Also, you say you don't know if you can cope with studying while you are married, how does that affect studying? Marriage isn't something difficult that can't be done at the same time as something else, and shouldn't stop you doing anything you want (except seeing other people of course!)

If you do not start it up again this year, and put it off to work then have a family etc... are you sure you will take it up again in the future? It will be a whole lot harder to study with a child to look after, it may be best to do it now while you can. You are only 19, there is plenty of time for children after your studying has finished.

I think you should study now, in order to be able to get a better job in the future and be able to support your children better when you can go back to work.

But only you know what you want to do, just bear in mind it is not the only time you can go to uni, nor the only time you can have kids, so you can do it either way.

24 Jun, 2021 07:33 PM

Well, 19 is very young to get married. You need to talk this over with your boyfriend. Do YOU want to work for two years and have a baby? If its not something you want it will be a bad thing to do, you will resent it and will resent not going to university. You don't sound as if you're very happy about the situation. You need to do what is right for you. You have 20 years before you have to have children! Education is a precious thing, and although it is possible to have children while working towards a degree, its a damn sight easier without. Thing about it like this - do you and your boyfriend want to give your children all of the best opportunities in life? Having a degree will lead to a better and more secure life in the future. Imagine you had a daughter and she was considering this at 19, I'm guessing you would want her to have her education first. 

Good luck. 


24 Jun, 2021 07:34 PM

You are young enough to have your cake and eat it !!!

 A university course is a big commitment ( 3-4 years) 

and you need to put Your *all* in to get decent grades .

 After which ,you may or may not get a decent job ...

 you are young enough to pick up your education later '

 But you still have to live and pay your way, till you do..

  when the time comes and you have a baby( baby's )  

it will be harder to do full time education + the worries of child minding etc

 ( not impossible !! it can be done!!!)

 Nobody can tell you how to map out your future,

You have to weigh up the options .

Go with your heart 

 I wish you all the very best 

 and congratulations on your July wedding 

24 Jun, 2021 07:34 PM

If your having doubts honey then don't.

I wish I had some good advice before I got married (also at age 19),

I was divorced by 21 as I gave up alot for him and followed him and his job.

Live your life first If your man is worth it he will understand, if you dont follow your dreams you will eventually resent him, it may sound ok have a baby then go back to uni, but once you have the baby it will be so much harder to go back due to the fact you will need a job for money and the childcare alone will cost you an arm and a leg, you probably wont go back, 

My advice is do it now while you still can, you have the rest of your life for marriage and kids, live a little xx