27 Jun, 2021 05:52 PM

Do you think that homeschooled children will lack the social skills to interact with the rest of society?

I have been homeschooling for 7 years. In my opinion I think my kids are doing well socialy amoung other kids thier age, both homeschool and those who are enrolled in traditional schools. I do however notice that some kids outside our homeschool circles, are more disrespectful, use quite a bit of foul language, talk more about sex, ect. at an earlier age. Do traditionally educated children have more social skills than homeschooled children? Or are tradional school children just over exposed to SOCIAL PROBLEMS? I am curious about what others think.

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EM
27 Jun, 2021 05:52 PM

Studies have shown that home schooled children are more successful academically and socially in college.  Or at least that's what I heard or read somewhere a few years ago when I was considering homeschooling my 3.

JU
27 Jun, 2021 05:53 PM

Teaching in the public school system for 7 years I witnessed  large numbers of "socialized" children.  Many people use the socialization term as an argument against homeschooling.  I do not want the government or other children socializing my children.  When I compare my observations of socialized school children and home schooled children the homeschoolers win out.  Years ago families took on the role of socialization.  Children played with their siblings and that was enough.  Parents weren't running around making sure their children were involved in a sport every season.  I would have to say children and parents had contentment which is something that is lacking today.

JU
27 Jun, 2021 05:53 PM

Many, but not all, are just over exposed to social problems. I was in the public school system for 11 years. I was homeschooled for the last two years of high school (amounting to nine months homeschooling). It is pathetic (this has actually happened) when a seven year old girl is repeatedly propositioned by a boy in her class. That happens more often than people think or are willing to admit. There are nine year olds getting pregnant--something is wrong here. I was thinking about, when I have children, enrolling them for grade school, and homeschooling them for junior high and high school, but I'm to the point that I don't think I want to do that. Children need a childhood, but most are growing up way too fast. I know of five and six year olds, even, who have been propositioned. Children that age even bring guns to school and take drugs. They start using foul language even earlier than that (for many children, they learn it from parents, but others learn it from classmates). It is just ridiculous. I went to a country school--there weren't even 300 people, pre-kindergarten through seniors. It was bad, although not as bad as many places, there.

Whether or not a homeschooled child has social problems depends entirely upon the parents and child. Some parents make it just about impossible for the child to socialize. Some children refuse to socialize. Other parents find a happy medium. Others spend, in some people's minds, too much time socializing.

I would love to know how people view going to public school, where you are not allowed to talk very much (I was there. I know.) gives you social skills. It does not. I became much more social after I was homeschooled because I was able to get out and talk to people.

MI
27 Jun, 2021 05:53 PM

I really believe that kids are born with their basic personality types: my son is shy and introverted even though he attended preschool from age 3 and then Kindergarten and 1st grade. School never made him more outgoing and helped his social skills, except he learned a few negative ones: hitting and some bad words (which he dropped when we quickly switched him to a better preschool). 

My daughter has always been outgoing, talkative, and extroverted although she has always been homeschooled and never attended school. I believe it is because she was born with that personality type, not because of homeschooling. 

I think they would have had the same personality types: my son shy and introverted, my dd outgoing and talkative no matter what type of schooling they attended. The only difference I've noticed is that some children sometimes do seem to pick up negative social skills in the school or preschool setting, like hitting, swear words, etc.  My home schooled children may not be as used to "strange situations" or bullying, but I don't really want them to be. 

In response to the teacher that notes the homeschooled kids seem to want more attention than the public schooled kids. I would not be surprised about that. In homeschooling, they probably have been getting close to a 1:1, 2:1 or 3:1 student-teacher ratio and then they suddenly move to a high school ratio of most likely around 30:1 to 40:1. I'm sure that would take an adjustment time to get used to such a huge change. They basically have to get used to little to no attention from the teacher because of the large classroom size; and apparently no one has told them that yet. These children are not being rude; just don't understand that the teachers don't really have much quality time to teach them in the high school classroom setting!



NI
27 Jun, 2021 05:54 PM

I am a homeschool graduate, and I have noticed a lot of differances between homeschoolers and "traditional" schoolers, though I must admit that there are problems in both the homeschool and regular school comunity.   I personally have no trouble in society outside of home, though I do have some trouble with a few of my friends because I view some of the things they do immature, and quite stupid.  Though I have a couple other friends who have been homeschooled their whole life and when put out in a situation they really dont know what to do.  I have had a friend randomly walk up to someone and start talking to them, Im not saying all people are bad but you just dont do that....at least not when your a young teenager.    

So basicly I think that its up to the parents to decide what is too much in their eyes for the children to be expossed to.  Though I think it is just as important for the child to know what happens in the real world and not everyone is going to be nice or be your friend.  So, about the social side of it, I woudl just suggest sending them someplace to have interaction, like for me it is dance class, or music.  

Hope this helps some.