27 Jun, 2021 02:48 PM

Home-schooling my kids?

Ok, so if a parent decides to home-school their child(ren), how do they go about it? I see alot of questions and answers on here already about parents not knowing what they're doing... Here's my situation: I have a 2 year old and 4 year old. The 4 year old is in Pre-K and she will be going into Kindergarten come September. The 2 year old will be starting school in September as well, going into Pre-K (he will be 3 by then). I would love to stay at home and teach them both rather than pay exorbitant school fees, and go out to work everyday, then have to pay for after-school care for the 2 of them. But I don't want to keep them at home if I can't get them to obey me as if they were in ''real school.'' Also, I want to make sure they are learning at least what kids their age would be learning in school, or even a bit more. Someone give me some advice or ideas? Thnx :D Update: NOTE: Ok, sorry to everyone I did not add that i live in the Bahamas...things here are not good like they are in the U.S. ok. And no, I'm not too lazy to work harder if I could work harder and more for more money, then i definitely would. But this would be more a financial reason for choosing this, and more chance to spend time with my kids which I don't get to do at all now! And public school is not an option, they would literally be like the 1% of white kids in that school and I am not racist but we all know what will happen in that kind of situation..

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27 Jun, 2021 02:49 PM

Oh, my gosh - I agree, I think school just got out and the masses are showing their ignorance.  Sorry you've had to wade through all that!

You can very feasibly teach your children at home - millions around the country, and millions more around the world, do so every day.  There are curriculum choices by the hundreds, activities that your children will be able to do that public (and even private) schools just don't have the time for, and social opportunities that will make most classroom schooled kids drool with envy :-)

Honestly, through homeschooling, your children will likely get a much broader and deeper education than they could through traditional schooling.  Because you can tailor their curriculum to their interests, skills levels, learning styles, and other needs, they can learn in the way that best suits them.  If this was something that was feasible in a classroom, many teachers would do so; unfortunately, it just isn't.

Also, your schedule as a homeschooler is your own.  You are not bound by the 8-3 schedule, and you don't have to deal with the school regulations.  You can schedule field trips and playdates whenever you want, and your children will have much more time to explore, play, and grow.  This is the normal process for development, and often results in children that are more confident, willing to learn, and able to learn independently (once they have the skills).

Homeschool kids around the country and around the world, on average, score several (like 20 or more) percentage points higher on standardized and college entrance tests than both private and public school kids; many score in the 90th percentile or above.  This, alone, shows that they keep up just fine :-)  Add to that the number of homeschool kids that hold internships in businesses, get into college before age 16, and go on to open their own businesses, and you've got a pretty successful group.

Homeschooling isn't easy, but it's certainly not difficult.  It takes motivation and commitment, and it takes consistency, but so does parenting.  It gives your kids the opportunity to grow up in the society that they will some day contribute to, to be educated in real-life situations rather than the fake society of a school.  Schools, logistically, must set up their own norms and social structure in order to keep the peace; unfortunately, it's nothing like that of the real world.

As far as obedience - how do you get them to obey you now?  It's really no different.  Homeschooling doesn't mean setting up a public or private school classroom in your home, it means giving your kids a lifestyle of learning.  The vast majority of homeschooled kids learn because they want to - they just plain don't know any other way.  They don't often object to learning because it's something that's exciting, like a new discovery - it's part of life.  It's not boring, or tedious, and they don't have hundreds of other kids complaining 8 hours a day about the work, so they don't often object to it.

You really can homeschool, and it's a great choice for millions of kids.  It's not right for everyone, obviously - no one choice is - but I think the number of ignorant answers you had to wade through to find mine is evidence that there is definitely a lot of merit to it :-)

Hope that helps - and good luck!

Source(s): Homeschool mom, 4+ years - we started when my son was 6 and have never looked back. He's learning like crazy and enjoying it!

27 Jun, 2021 02:49 PM

Only you know your children and whether or not they are ready for school. Sometimes parents homeschool for the early years or when schooling has broken down. Some even have a part time schooling where the child goes to school on certain days. 

What matters is it is right for you and your children. 

Have a look around at the resources online and in the shops, see if there are other families locally that homeschool. 

Socialising can be an issue but, remember that once they leave school very few of their friends will be their age. Homeschooled kids can be more outgoing.

On a positive note - your children will have the benefit of a class size of two - that means they will get much more work done than they would at school. You can see immediately if they have a problem. 

Why not try it out during the holidays? Get some resources for their level, decide what your goal for the time will be (read the first book in the set confidently/ recognise shapes and colours) and give it a go! If you find it too much, you can still send them to school when term starts. Be firm on when it is "school time" and enjoy your children's early years. 

Have a great time and don't worry - you can learn ahead of them so you're never stuck.

Source(s): Home schooled younger daughter at high school level. She is now very happily and successfully doing a science degree. I wish I'd had the courage to have started at primary level.

27 Jun, 2021 02:50 PM

Homeschooled children are just as social as public school children. If you homeschool they have communities you can join, sometimes called support groups. They have group activities your kids can join and they get together on a regular basis. I have an 11 year old and a 9 year who I plan to home school , hopefully starting next week. My 11 year old son is extremely smart. He made a 100 on his TAKS test the other day. And because he is smart and a bit nerdy he is picked on non stop. The school told me that there is nothing they can do because some kids will just be picked on. Now that will make a kid turn out messed up when they have to deal with that. Two kids pinned him against the wall and tried to get some others to beat him up and this went unnoticed until mu son pushed back, then he got in trouble. not all of the teachers like the smart kids because they tend to be different in some ways than the popular kids are. I think you have to weigh the situation. You can always try homeschooling and if you don't like it or can't do it then you still have the public school option. At home I know my kids will be encouraged to be smart and to kow it is okay to be smart. I also have the choice of the type of social settings they are in because it will be me putting them there not the school. I hope you will at least try to get in touch with a homeschool support group before you decide, you can search them online and contact a few to see which one you like.Good luck

27 Jun, 2021 02:50 PM

I just learned some interesting things about homeschooling that I did not know and think the name needs to change as it is not very accurate. One concern that a lot of us have is are the kids getting a good enough education to go to college. How does all of that work? Grading and taking the SATs? I think you need to contact the school in your area to find out the requirements. You must not be in the U.S. Canada? 

I didn't see why you couldn't do it. Is there a homeschooling parents network in your area or nearby?  

I don't think people mean to be critical and close minded. When you hear the term, homeschooling then you think kids being taught at home. For some kids, it's not necessarily what may be best for them. But obviously it's a judgment call. I have met kids that were homeschooled. I didn't find out the details. Honestly, from what I recall, they did seem a little different. I don't know why. It wasn't a bad thing. It was just different. 

I would start with the school and see where they direct you. But if you can and want to then go for it.

edit: It's definitely better in a lot of ways to have someone directly involved on a personal level. They can either move faster or slower. I definitely see a lot more pros than cons. One thing though and I don't know if this is an issue or not. But sometimes parents do not make the best teachers for their children because they are too emotionally invested. My father excels in Calculus and Physics. When I went to him for help he was getting frustrated that I didn't seem to pick it up as quickly as he did. But my husband seems to do quite well tutoring his kids. He stays calm and is patient. 

Who cares what other people say. You know your kids and you have to do what you think is best. Start with the school. Find a group that homeschools. Just go for it

27 Jun, 2021 02:50 PM

If you can't get them to obey you, or are simply afraid that they won't, then it means you need to work more on parenting skills. You'll likely find that homeschooling parents are keen to learn more about great skills for being parents and teachers to their children. There are some great books out there, each with their own thing to help boost you along. Visit your public library and start reading! Faber and Mazlish are favourites among many homeschooling parents, as are Alfie Kohn and Jane Nelsen (she has a series of books called Positive Discipline). We parents have to keep learning and growing just as much as our kids. 

To make sure that they are learning at least as much as they would in school, you'd just check out your state/province's learning outcomes and make sure you do at least that. Most packaged programs out there will meet a typical grade level standard. Some do things in a different order but everything does eventually get covered.

Btw, please don't pay any attention to those who say it's the worst thing you can do to your kids and their social skills will suffer and they need friends and all that. They have no clue what they are talking about. Your kids can still have friends and social lives and they won't hate you or be messed up if you are committed to being a good parent and homeschooling teacher. My kids are doing great--people never guess that they're homeschooled; they just think they are happy, polite kids. They get complimented on their behaviour. They know how to interact with others. But I've made a point to do things with others regularly. You can do that, too